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Law of Attraction Misunderstood: Everyone in Our Life is a Mirror of Us 12/26/2007 - By Lorna Levy
Popular spiritual thought says everyone in our lives is a mirror of our behavior. Lorna Levy clarifies why that is inaccurate.
One in a series to deepen our understanding of the Law of Attraction in our lives.
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There is a popular New Age idea that says challenging people and events in our lives are mirrors of our behavior. If someone is angry with us, we are told to look at where we are angry with someone else. If we experience a crime against us or our belongings, we are told to look at where we may have stolen something or otherwise committed some crime against someone else. A person who feels she is attracting a lot of abuse in a relationship is told to look at where she may be abusive. When people do hurtful things to us we are told to look at where we need to forgive. Law of Attraction does not reflect our actions; it reflects our beliefs.
The idea that we can look at the behavior of the people in our life and we can see an exact, direct, reflection of our behavior, our selves, and consequently, how we are attracting that is a fallacy. This is only partially correct. The quote at the top of this article by Neville Goddard says it much more precisely – our experiences reflect our consciousness, not our actions. What these New Age people overlook is that a mirror doesn’t reflect exactly what it sees; a mirror reverses the image, reflecting left and right on opposite sides. Some mirrors will distort length or width. This limited thinking can induce guilt because it implies you are actively ‘doing something wrong’ and that is why you are getting what you’re getting. When you change your behavior and become impeccable in your integrity and yet, find you are attracting the same experiences, what then? This was the experience of one of my clients.
Sandy came to me for help in changing what she was attracting. She wanted desperately to understand and change the patterns of her relationships with men. Sandy used to create emotionally abusive relationships for herself, one after the other. She fully accepted the idea of Law of Attraction and wanted to know how and why she kept repeating the same pattern in spite of affirmations and intentions to create better. Her search for answers ranged from Freudian – examining her early relationship with her father, to various forgiveness works, to attending lots of workshops on deliberate creation and reading everything and everybody to try to understand the metaphysical cause. Well-meaning people with a cursory understanding of metaphysics told her, over and over, to look at where she is abusive, or bullying or angry or withholding, etc. to others. For 20 years she tried to find that in herself, minutely examining her every word, every action, every motivation, and, she said, always knowing that she had done so much work on herself that she was not at all mean-spirited or abusive in any way. Not even to flies or mosquitoes. When Sandy came to me she had given up ever understanding this issue.
We create from feelings – vibration – expectation. The Universe does not speak English or French; it does not hear our words. In working with Sandy, I asked her to write down the feelings she has had about herself in each relationship. She wrote feelings like “ignored, not respected, not heard, disregarded, unimportant.” She realized they were always the same. She realized she had re-created the same relationship over and over with subsequent men. I asked her, “Can you see that what you are creating is what you believe you should have?” “You are getting this because you feel that you deserve this kind of relationship.”
“You feel – believe – expect that this is the way a relationship is. Somehow, you have come to feel insecure and unwanted, so you attract someone to give you those feelings.” Tears filled her eyes and she said this was the first time she ever really understood what was happening. This was the light bulb moment for her.
If you feel unworthy, then you will attract someone who will help you feel unworthy. You attract more of what you are feeling or anticipating. It has nothing at all to do with whether you create those kinds of feelings in others. So a ‘victim’ always needs a perpetrator – not another victim. Two victims together can’t create the energy that keeps them feeling victimized. They need a bully for that, to fulfill their law of attraction. A bully needs a victim, someone to push around. When two bullies get together, we often see the energy shift into something else – either victim and bully, or even friendship as kindred spirits recognize each other. But two bullies together can’t sustain that energy. An overwhelmed person needs to create activities to overwhelm her. Have you ever said to such a person, “Sit down, I’ll do it,”? What happens? They say, “no,” and they continue to do it all themselves, all the while complaining about how overwhelmed they are. A person like that cannot create calm until they think of themselves, and see themselves, as a calm person. A neat freak who loves neatness will attract people who like order. A neat freak who feels beleaguered and believes she is surrounded by slobs will find herself surrounded by people who have little or no interest in order. Think of a magnet. Two north poles, or two south poles, of a magnet repel each other. For real attraction you have to match a north with a south.
I have come to think of it not as opposites but as polarities. The opposite of this is what feeling? That is who you attract – not the same vibe. Yet, you see, these are a match – as a lock and a key are a match, or a hand and glove.
Now, it is not important if these feelings are related to your feelings about your Dad, or not. The how and why of how you got these feelings is not what is important. Recognizing them, becoming aware of their, formerly automatic, influence, and changing them with conscious intention is all that matters now.
“The point of power is now.” – Seth
‘You are living your life now! It’s always now!” – Abraham
So, how do you change these feelings? Feel good, feel joy, feel as if you have what you are wanting to create, “live from the state of having,” – Neville, and “Act as if,” – Seth.
Don’t know how? Call me.
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Lorna maintains an international Law of Attraction Coaching practice. From time to time she has openings for new clients. If you would like some help in consciously using the law of attraction in your life with ease, visit her website: http://TheLawofAttractionTeacher.com . Subscribe to her newsletter, read free ebooks, take a course, learn more about law of attraction.
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